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The Single Series: All by myself

  As I walk through different seasons in my life and learn new lessons I like to bring my readers along with me. I am in a very interesting season in my life: the season of singleness. Yes, I am single. Holla at yo girl.. just kidding. This is the first post of the Single Series. If you are walking through this season with me then read on, if you have already conquered this season please feel free to give any advice to all of us struggling out here.

  I think I have finally come to terms with being in this season. Why was it so hard for me? The thought of being "alone" made the thought of being in this season unbearable. 
 
 Stop thinking that it is bad to be alone. I noticed this interesting pattern in my life: the second I put people before Christ I ended up in a season where turning to Christ was my only option. I think I have finally realized that it is my best season! Christ should always be our first response to our everyday life and if He isn't our first choice to run to, we've got an issue. Jesus intentionally separated Himself from people in order to put all His focus on God.
  Luke 5:16 "But Jesus often withdrew to the wilderness for prayer"
  Mark 14:32 "They went to the olive grove called Gethsemane, and Jesus said, 'Sit here while I go and pray.'"

  If Jesus was purposefully separating Himself from people, including His disciples, His nearest and dearest people, don't you think we should be doing the same? How could separating ourselves to put a daily focus on Christ be a bad thing?

  You are never really alone. 
Genesis 2:18 "Then the Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.'" Yes, we are created to do life with people but just because God made a significant other for Adam does not mean we must jump into every relationship possible. Do life with people outside of a relationship. Ever heard of a thing called friends? Galatians 6:2 "Share each other's burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ." Hebrews 10:24-25 "Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near." 

  Being "alone" is not a burden. Take this season of singleness to grow with your brothers and sisters but also to allow moments of seperation in order to maintain your eyes and priority on Christ. This season of singleness is the best opportunity to experience growth. You choose how to take this season. Either you continue to fill that void with people and jump from one relationship to the next, or you allow God to move, build you up, and use you.

  Thought: I was told you don't build a house unless you know the foundation is firm. Why build a relationship if your, or their, foundation isn't firm in Christ?
  

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