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How to be single

   
   I've gone back and forth about writing something like this because I am NO relationship expert, or an expert in any category for that matter, but I've noticed an unhealthy mindset in today's world and I hope that we can shift our perspective. 
   Okay so you're single. It is time to come to terms with that reality. You've been single for an hour to a year. Either way you've already picked out names for your cats and have already tweeted the hashtag '#foreveralone'. I can go on and on about how you are not alone, how you don't need to date now, and so on and so on but today I want to change your perspective on singleness itself. Maybe, just maybe, being single is not the end of the world. Maybe there's actually a sense of joy and productivity in the season of singleness.
   Relationships are HARD work and take time and attention to pour into them, just like any friendship. So you're single, where do you put all this extra time and attention? Well your main focus should always be on Christ but when you are single you have all this extra energy to pour into the Kingdom of God. 1 Corinthians 7:40 "I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs-how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world-how he can please his wife-and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world-how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord." You are able to be fully and completely devoted to Christ and Christ alone.
   It is time to stop being miserable in your time of singleness and start seeing the beauty in it. Philippians 4:4-5 "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near." Do you not realize the opportunity you have? The time you can fully devote to Christ? God's love for you is so much deeper and so much more pure than anyone can ever give you. You have this moment in your life to be selfish in your walk with Christ. To soak up every ounce of God that you can but also pour out every ounce to those around you. You can spend your time reaching the lost as opposed to planning next weeks date.
   Dating and relationships aren't bad, don't get me wrong, but even Paul believed being single was preferred. 1 Corinthians 7:40 "In my judgement, she is happier if she stays as she is-and I think that I too have the Spirit of God." It is time to stop seeing singleness as a season of rejection and loneliness and start to see it as a season of growth in who we are as Christians. 

   "Stop searching for 'the one' and start seeking the One" Pastor Alberto Bello




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